Saturday, August 3, 2013

There's This Dentist In Iowa...

Sometimes I think I'm from a different planet.  Did you see 20-20 last night on ABC?  I'd read the story in the newspaper about the 50ish year old dentist who "had feelings" for his long-time hygienist, but watching the story on TV with the real people and the commentary was something else.

I tweeted my response.  They asked us to. I was about the 65th listener to do so.  There were only 2 of us who felt the dentist did the right thing...almost.

The "almost" part, in my opinion, is he should have given her 6 months severance instead of 1 month.  Even if he had to mortgage his boat and skip a European vacation he should have done that.

BUT....really....he is a person who after working side by side with another person for 20 or so years, finds himself having out-of-control fantasy sexual feelings for her.  I believe you can totally control your behavior and the actions you choose to take, but it's pretty darn hard to control your feelings.  How do you keep thoughts and feelings from crossing your mind?  I have not idea.  I know I can't.

He didn't 'let her go' because she was too attractive even though that is what the headlines say.  He let her go because he was falling in love with her.  He is married.  His wife and he decided to work on their marriage...and so the hygienist had to go.  I get that. 

Isn't the dental office his business?  Doesn't he have the right to hire the right people for the job at the right time?  If he can no longer keep his mind on teeth in her presence, then someone has to go.  And again it is his business.

"I am so sorry that we can no longer work together because I am a weak person at this time of my life.  I will give you the best recommendation possible.  I want you to have 6 months of severance pay.  I regret having to do this but it seems the only solution."

Oh, well.  That's just me.  Evidently only 3% of Tweeters agree with me.  So, help me here.  Can we always control our feelings?  I mean if your favorite ice cream is in the freezer at all times, can you resist wanting it?  I know you can resist eating it but we are talking about feelings, not behavior.  Most of us would choose not to buy the ice at my house.  The ice cream had to go.  I like it too much.


  1. I hadn't heard about this one. Interesting topic. I have to agree with what you said. Although it sucks for the hygienist to lose her job he did make a wise decision. As for controlling your feelings, no I don't think you can. You feel what you feel sometimes whether you want to feel that way or not.

  2. Thanks Ann. It is an interesting topic. Life just isn't perfect everyday. We don't have to make every decision into an issue, a judgement. I think the media just likes to stir the pot. Sometimes it's just the lessor of 2 evils. I feel bad for this guy.

  3. I agree with you Sandra, feelings are harder to control than actions. And actions usually matter the most. Yes it should have been 6 months..

    1. Actions surely do matter and they are out there for all to see! And it's hard to take them back.

  4. You can definitely see your skills in the paintings you write. The arena hopes for more passionate writers like you who are not afraid to mention how they believe. At all times follow your heart.


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