Tuesday, July 30, 2013

How Do You Nurture Youself?

Maybe a better question would be, "Do you nurture yourself?"  Women, do you?  Men, do you?  This is not just a woman thing.

You may be surrounded by people in your life whose main desire is to nurture you...but I doubt it.  It's pretty much up to you.  Not that others don't love you.  Not that others don't care.  But what you don't do for yourself, you are usually unable to do effectively for others.  And, really, how many of us do truly nurture ourselves?

I hope that doesn't sound selfish.  I don't like selfish.  But I don't like selfless either.

What one does to nurture herself, may not work for another.  For me, having a long, hot bath, with or without bubbles, a glass of cool water, and a good book, is close the Heaven.  I am nurturing myself to the hilt.  To someone else, though, they may feel they are just sitting in dirty water. 

Mammograms are not fun, I don't care who you are. But could they be nurturing?  I say, yes, if while you are there you really are grateful for the chance to care for your body, to give it the best medical info you can, to appreciate that you live in a country where anyone can avail themselves of this technology....when many citizens of the world can't even find a drink of clean water.

But if the mammogram is feared, dreaded, hated, scorned, then it's not nurturing.  If it's all about how much it hurts and how much longer can this take, well, then it's not nurturing.  It's okay.  Most people feel this way.  Only nut cases like me find it nurturing.

Maybe getting a mani-pedi nurtures you.  It does a lot of people.  Even my 94 year old uncle goes occasionally.  He and I don't go because it feels nurturing to us.  He just can't comfortably reach his toes and do all that work. And I just do it, very rarely, to present a better appearance.  It feels like wasting time to me.  It feels arrogant. Told you I was a nut case.

Being with my blog is actually nurturing for me.  It's all about me and how I feel here.  It nurtures me to write, to get it out, to hear from you, to maybe say something uplifting for someone else.

Being with my friends nurtures me.  I get to love on them, and them on me. I get to be real and to be supported.  I get to laugh.  I get to listen and support them back.

I used to get up at 5:30 in the morning...for many years.  Now, I nurture myself and get up when the sun lights up the outside.  What a gift to myself that is.

So, what nurtures you?  What do you consciously do that nurtures you?  That makes you feel good and makes you feel special in this big wide world.  Even if you don't leave a comment, just think about it and be good to yourself.


  1. Well this post nurtures me this morning it is wonderful I love the shot of your Uncle. I am learning to nurture myself and yes it is hard after taking care of everyone I still have a lot to learn. I did go for a mammogram last week not pleasant but necessary for my health.
    Blogging does nurture me and the friends I met along the way. Thanks for the reminder we are indeed importantand must nurture ourselves to be of any use to anyone else. Take care and lots of hugs my friend. B

  2. Getting your comments always nurtures me! Thank you.


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