Saturday, January 22, 2011

Giving and Receiving

My husband and I are both numbers people but I am the one who enjoys working on our income tax returns.  I know what you're thinking...something must be wrong with her!  Maybe so but there is something about gathering the previous year together and bringing financial closure to chaos, that paves the way for another new beginning.  Kind of like sweeping the crumbs from the floor right before a party.

Itemizing deductions is my favorite part, especially Charitable Giving. I like reviewing what we have given during the year.  Our U.S. tax system is set up so that we are not taxed on money we give away.  I'm not sure how that got started but it's a good thing...for lots of reasons. 

Don't think that I "give to get".  I don't subscribe to that practice although I know it works.  Put another way, I know that whatever I give, I will get back...and even more.  However I don't give for that reason.  I give, selfishly, to make my heart feel good...and to help someone else.  One organization can beg relentlessly for money and not get a penny from me.  Another can barely express a need, and, if it touches my heart, I rejoice in helping them.

Here is a favorite 'giving story'.  I was shopping in Belks back in the fall.  A delightful young lady helped me.  She was way beyond the average sales person.  I thanked her and we ended up sharing our day and other events.  My heart opened as a result of her story.  In a few days I returned and told her to choose two items of clothing for herself she really loved.  She was shocked as you would expect.  Finally she realized I was serious and she went to the Sales rack and the Clearance rack and said, "Maybe I can find something here."   I said, "Shop for yourself the way you shopped for me.  Find the best deal you can but make sure you LOVE it."

Never before have I done this type of giving.  No, it wasn't tax deductible but I can't express the pleasure I received from the experience.  We didn't exchange names or information, and I haven't seen her since.

About two weeks later I was shocked to receive a totally unexpected check in the mail for $60.  Guess what? The amount I paid for her two blouses was also $60.  Coincidence? I think not.

"Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” 


  1. That was a great story! It would have never occurred to me to do something like that. I guess I need to start being more open to these opportunities.

  2. Thanks Snuggle. I couldn't believe I did it either but I just knew...can't explain it...

  3. Oh Sandra, I LOVE this. I absolutely love this!!

  4. Marla, I KNOW you are a big giver. You inspire a lot of people! Me included.


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