Saturday, March 6, 2010

You See What You Want To See

When I was hoping to become pregnant, back in the day, it seemed that everywhere I went...the mall, church, travel...everyone was pregnant!  Once I became pregnant, same thing.  Pregnant ladies were everywhere!  Were they there all along and I just didn't notice them?

What I am noticing these days is how many people have difficulty walking.  Walking!  Something I have taken for granted my whole life!  My mom has almost lost this ability.  She has lost it for all practical purposes.  We don't know why.  A combination of a broken leg and a broken hip, though both well-healed, plus atrophy from using those parts less and less, plus some arthritis, plus fear of falling, and on and on.  I think it is what is called "old age" for many.  So the doctor says anyway.  Even Emory can come up with no better answer.  At least there is no pain.

Now, when I go out, I am aware of how many people either walk with what is called a "disturbed gait".  For so many reasons, people of all ages have impairments in their ability to walk.  Don't get me wrong.  They still get around and enjoy a good quality of life.  It's just that I never noticed before. 

Makes you realize how very much we take for granted, huh?  The same happenings, give or take, play out around us as we encounter everyday life when we are out and about.  I think I will experiment with this idea.  Maybe I will pick something....anything shirts, eyeglassles, obesity and watch those things begin to surround me.  I may notice eye contact and connection and see how that looks.  I may notice sadness, gladness. 

Reality often goes where thought flows.  What we focus on is often what shows up around us.  People who expect the world to be their handmaiden, to expeirence joy and goodness, usually do.  People who expect to be the victim, often are. 

Decide what you want to have more of in your life.  What do you want to show up in your daily sphere?  Expect it.  Look for it.  Notice it.  It is already there.

Enjoy the day!

  PS.  Happy Birthday Trip!


  1. Just popped in to say that my dad has Alzheimer's. Thanks for the compliment on the dogwood. I took the photo and was totally surprised myself that it turned out to be so great. Just pure luck. Nice to meet you.

  2. Thanks Susan. My thoughts are with you and your dad. Touch place to be. My cousin's hubby too. I'm sorry.

  3. I love how thought provoking you are!! I agree about the pregnancy thing when I was trying to get pregnant it took almost a year and it seemed like every woman on earth was pregnant around me lol. Today I am going to look for people with glasses.

  4. It is not the first time I've heard "Why keep looking for what you already have?"

    Sometimes I think I really understand that.

  5. it is a phenomenon i heard before: once you noticed something you'll see it everywhere. it could be a new word, an item, etc. my mom has leg problems as well, and it is sad to see our parents age.

  6. Sandra, I'm sorry about your mom. My mom has the same problems.
    Ahh , yes , I agree with Too Many Hats. That happened to me when I bought my new car.
    Happu week-end!
    Betty xx

  7. Thanks Y'all,
    Lacie: YOu will be seeing glasses everywhere! I forgot to look today.
    Steve, You are a wise one for sure.
    Sarah, It is so sad to watch aging and not be able to make it better.
    TMH, My best goes out to your dad.
    Betty, Goes out to your mom too. No fun for them.

  8. Sandra ~ Fantastic observation and a great reminder to watch my focus.

  9. Thanks Marla. Your focus is right on! Take care.


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