Thursday, October 1, 2009

Claim Your Power

My newest follower is Flory. I'm passing Boutiques Stitches Blog Award to her. Maybe you have been to Flory's blog. If not, grab a coffee and go visit. I have some things in common with Flory. She reminds me a little of myself. Today she has a picture posted with no words. A picture of her laying tile in the kitchen! Never have I laid tile and never shall I. But once upon a time I installed a faucet in the bathroom. I don't know what came over me but I was suddenly possessed. Probably just didn't want to pay a plumber $200 to do it. How difficult could it be anyway?

Very difficult. It wasn't too hard taking the old faucet out. Seemed fairly simple. Thought I would just do everything in reverse, drop the new one in, tighten the screws and there you go. Wrong. Details escape me now but it was a two day project. I would NOT give up. You have to have a certain wrench, in case you didn't know. Another trip to the store. You have to practically stand on your head under the sink, one hand turning the big heavy special wrench and one holding everything else tight. I bet I had a butt crack going on too. Finally, all done! Yea! Turned on the water...spewed everywhere and leaked. Now what? Not giving up. Something about plumbers putty and washers, I don't know but it was an ordeal! I finally finished and was one satisfied woman. I remember taking a picture of the faucet just like Flory. I'm so glad I did it. And I'll never do it again!

Years and years ago it was time to buy a new car. My husband always does that, but I said, "No, I want to do it myself!" I am woman, hear me roar. So off I went. I knew what I wanted to spend, I was open on the car, but it had to be new. My first approach was to walk in, tell them how much I had to spend. They said, "Sorry. No can do. Impossible." I said, "Sorry. That's my best offer." And I would leave. Okay, I was assertive, step one, but it got me nowhere and wasted a whole day.

Learned to soften my approach a little, and it worked better. Took a couple of weeks but I found my car and my "deal". I bough a new Chevy Corsica, beautiful blue. Remember those? The sales guy and I spent an entire half day together. We both knew I would buy this car. But neither of us would budge on the negotiations at a certain point. He told me, "I'd much rather deal with a man than haggle with a woman. They are relentless. A man will back down." The man's ego doesn't want to look cheap. I didn't care.

He and I actually had a good time going back and forth, bantering a little. I ended up walking out. I'd been told you have to be willing to walk out. We were now quibbling over $250! But it was a matter of principle. He called me the next day. I came back. We split the difference. I bought the car.

I cannot tell you what that experience did for me. That and the faucet. It was part of a process when I was (finally) claiming my power. Not just as a woman, but as an adult person. I did feel powerful. I did it from start to finish. It was a big deal. I don't need to do it again. My husband can take it from here...although I do drive a better bargain!

Have you done anything lately to claim your power? Tell me what and all the juice details.

Enjoy the day!

11 comments:

  1. Popping over from Flory's blog. She's an awesome blogging buddy who I've been following since she began her blog. Looks like you have a great place here, too. I'd love to follow if you follow as well. :)

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  2. visited your pal flory - since my husband starts lots of things but never finishes, i find myself doing a ton of stuff i never thought i would be doing but it proves to me that i can do it no matter what !

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  3. I follow Flory's site as well...she's great! I love doing handy type projects and am actually the handy one in the family. We have tackled all kinds of things I never thought we would including putting up walls, electrical and plumbing. That's what you have to do with an old house unless you want to pay thousands to someone else to do it!

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  4. I'm gonna check out Flory as soon as I leave a note for you.

    My friend Jayne and I are always calling ourselves Strong, Independent, Intelligent women. We do not rely on our husbands when we can just as easily do it ourselves. Great post!

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  5. WOW, if a plumber here in my country would work there, he'd be earning loads. Gosh, I don't do electrical & plumbing here at home; I'm too scared. If I do get married one day, I think I'd like my husband to do these things at home. My boyfriend loves to tinker stuff and he actually dreams of having his own, huge working area when he gets a house in the future for electrical, plumbing, and other house stuff.

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  6. Hi Sandra... my god, you remind me of myself!! I go through all sorts of DIY stuff... faucets, cars, you name it, I've probably tackled it... back and forth to the hardware store.. how hard could it be... hahaha..

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  7. Miss Sandra,
    No need me sayin nuthin looks like, you know I tackle ever thin, now Bess, bless her heart, she even has to put up instructions on the bathroom toilet seat, never could figger her not knowin thet.
    HUGS

    Guess i should remove them dam springs, old prank keep fergitin about.

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  8. What an awesome experience.

    I do remember the blue Chevy Corsica as I had one of those too. How funny!

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  9. Russ, It really does cost a lot to have a plumber come to your house. I don't know how much of the money they get and how much goes to their boss and company owner. They work really hard that;s for sure.
    Mathy,Techy,Artsy Fartsy

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  10. Thanks everybody for your comments. The thing about me and DIY stuff is once I have done it I don't really want to do it again....I mean it's hard!!! The important thing is we can do whatever we have to do, that's for sure.
    Mathy,Techy,Artsy Fartsy

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  11. OMG!!! Thank you so much for the bloggy love! You're great!

    I love your post. "Claim Your Power", is a perfect title. I always believe I can do anything I set myself out to do. I can relate to not wanting to give up on the sink.

    I'll be back soon. :)

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