Wednesday, September 30, 2009

My How We've Changed

I just read a story on Coach Dayne's blog that took me back many years. Probably about 30 years to be exact. It was Christmas Eve night. We were making our annual trek to my husband's parents' farm to celebrate Christmas with his large family. Our car was packed with presents along with precious human cargo, our family: our two little boys, our cocker spaniel,Rusty, Larry and me.

It was about 8:00, already dark, and we were a few miles outside the small town near my parents-in-law's home. As we approached a crossroad in the middle of nowhere there was a man seeking a ride. We pulled over, found that he just needed to go a few miles to meet his brother. Soon we had one more passenger with us, went the few miles, and deposited him. That night, that Christmas Eve, we didn't hesitate to pick up a neighbor.

We look back on that night and shiver in disbelief, both my husband and myself. Would we do that today? No way. Would we recommend that anyone pick up a stranger these days. No way. If my kids are reading this, don't you EVER pick up anyone! But that was 30 years ago and it was a different world.

Still. There could have been a very different outcome to that evening. Don't like to think of that. There really is no moral to the story. It just came to me. It's more a lesson in what not to do although at the time it felt good to help someone out.

If you haven't visited Coach Dayne's blog, Coach Your Mind, go over and spend some time there. It does the mind good and we need that. I'm passing along an award I got from Boutique Stitches to you, Dayne. Grab it off my sidebar. Thanks for the good stuff.


  1. Miss Sandra,
    no more hitchhiking treks for me, and thanks for picking that guy up, back then it coulda been me. now days you just never know.

  2. Great post. I really do wonder though how much worse it is today than it was back then. Is it really that much worse or are we just hearing about it more with the advancement of technology and 24 hour news. Growing up I don't remember hearing about the crime but then I didn't watch the evening news that much or read the paper. Now we have internet, 24 hour news channels where you hear every detail of the story over and over. Just wondering.

  3. It's a shame that these days we have to look the other way when someone is in trouble - you never know if it's a trap. Scary!

    Found you on the linky for Blog for a Cure. I'm following. :)

  4. Times have definitely changed. It's so sad.

    It's gotten to where when I see a car broken down on a lone road I'm more likely to call the Sheriff to come out and assist the person rather than do so myself due to fear.

  5. Sandra,

    Thank you soo much for your kind words!

    Times definitely have changed, haven't they. I like what you told your kids... "Don't EVER EVER EVER pick anyone up..." Sooo true!

    Thanks again... I look forward to more reading.

  6. is human nature really chaning for the worse? how could that be? we have plenty of mega churches nowadays that were sorely missing back in the good old days. shouldn't those two cancel each other out? now you make me think...

  7. I actually don't think it is worse than before. A historian friend of mine says ancient times were horrible. We think it was hunky dorry once they started America. I agree with TTM, I think we just hear more about it now. There is so much good. But none of us want to invite trouble. We live and learn.
    Mathy, Techy Artsy Fartsy

  8. this was a great post and so was coach dayne's thanks for pointing him out

    a couple years back we had a severe rainstorm, and i was out running errands with my son, as you do in a severe rainstorm, and i came across an elderly gentleman and his little dog, standing in a parking lot looking so forlorn that i had to stop and help - something i would normally never do

    i helped him and his dog into the car, gave him a towel from the back seat - which i keep for the dog, but what can you do, and drove him home, which was less than a block away

    he thanked me profusely and said that he'd been standing out there for close to an hour and no one had stopped to help him

    btw - when you go to your profile page, which is how i get to you after you leave me a comment, it doesn't show your blog site anymore, and when you click on your web page, it brings up a shopping site? just fyi

  9. Thanks SFTC! There is no way you could have left an old man standing in the rain. I know.

    Re my Profile. Thanks for telling me. I figured it out. I was logged in under Mrs. W. a name I used with my students...I do have a shopping blog so somehow they got hooked up. I need to watch out for that. Thanks. I've learned a lot from you and I 'preciate it so much. Coming to Atlanta in January?

  10. Hello, I really like your blog! I just found you on SITS and thought I would drop by. Seems like life is treating you well...I'm jealous!!

    My personal blog:

    If you are ever interested in a new blog makeover, I would love to work with you!

    Nice to meet you and I hope you have a lovely evening!

  11. Hi, I'm stopping by from SITS! I just wanted to share a bit of comment love. Thanks for picking up that guy way back then. You were a true blessing to him, I'm sure.

    I'm not sure what I would do in that situation. I always go with my gut, otherwise known as The Holy Spirit. Wherever He leads me, I go and I do. It has never failed me so far.

    I hope the rest of your week is absolutely amazing!

    Teresa <><

  12. Good morning! Kindness needs to be exercised with wisdom and in today's world it is a must. Thanks for sharing your flashback. Visiting from SITS. Have a wonderful day!

  13. Thanks guys. What inspiring comments. Thanks for taking the time to write from your heart. I'll be visiting each of you.

  14. Good morning! Saying "hello" from SITS.

    I have to say thank you for picking that man up, even though in that situation, I don't know what I myself would do in this day and age.

    My father when I was younger used to travel to various small towns for work, and sometimes, the only way he could make it home was to hitch. It scared my mother half to death because as much evil as a hitch hiker seems to drivers, so do drivers seem to hitch hikers. The danger goes both ways...but not many drivers realize that.

    So thank you for being kind, even 30 years ago :)

  15. Sandra, my husband remembers those hitchiking days well. It's hard to believe there was ever a time anyone trusted a stranger enough to put them in their car.

    Thank you for stopping by my blog the other day when I was SITS featured blogger!


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